How do we find love?

Everyone is looking for that special someone to share their lives with,  but how do we find them and then keep them forever. 

Is it on the number of different dating sites on the Internet that claim to help you find the special one with a click of a button. Is it by following all the rules rigidly and religiously in the many thousands of dating books that claim to have the answer to finding your true love. 

 Is it by going speed dating and looking for that spark each time someone new sits in your chair.  Is it by going shopping and watching out for that good looking single person buying a number of taste the difference treats for one.

Is it by getting set up with your best friends partners friend of a friend of a friend who happens to be single, just like you.  Or is it that you just need to go into town a Saturday night and across the dance floor or bar your eye will catch the one you have been waiting for. 

If it is this easy, why is this industry one of the fast growing in the world. 

We were all created to be loved and to love and as someone told me today we all deserved to be loved. So why do some people take no time at all to find the special someone and for the rest of us it takes years if not decades.

Is it as the love industry suggests that  there is something fundamentally wrong with us.  So wrong in fact that we have to change who we are to find love. 

Are we making mistake after mistake and just need to be guided in the right way to do things.

Do we just need to be bold and speak to a number of perfect strangers to find the right one.

Is there a  missing ingredient in us or in our lives.
Is there a magic formula, is the answer a total mystery or is it just to simple for some of us to comprehend.

Post your comments and lets try to unravel what at times seems to hard to figure out and tell us
how you found love.